The past year+ has been a doozy – not just for me, but for so many people I know.
Big moves. New careers. Losing loved ones. Health challenges. (Or all of the above).
How have you been faring?
My world shifted and was shaken through – moving to another state, closing old businesses and opening new ones, welcoming a baby girl into our family and saying goodbye to my father who passed on the same day, within hours of each other, launching our older children out of college and into their new life out West, financial rumblings, shifting the roles & dynamic within my marriage, the list goes on.
Yet all of these external life transformations have paled in comparison to my Inner Journey. This deepening within has been much more profound than the external changes. And while all the shifts have been uncomfortable, heart wrenching, and often scary, they’ve also brought so much more compassion, contentment, and care into my life.
Here’s a few hard-won gems:
- Trust.
Trusting that I am, and will be, okay. Life has a plan even if I can’t see it. Allowing life to unfold instead of pushing it to happen on my terms.
- Inner Knowing.
Listening to my inner guidance and acting on it. Looking within for answers. Not looking to others or outer circumstances to feed a need for love, approval or worth – or waiting for their permission to do what I want or need. And yes, developing a deeper relationship with my guides.
- Deep Self-Care.
Valuing myself enough to truly take care of myself – body, mind, emotion and spirit. Making time for myself. Recognizing all the many roles (mom, daughter, friend, business owner, shaman, wife, etc.) I play take time and energy. And I’m talking to myself much more kindly these days!
- Courage to Speak Up.
Speaking my truth even when it’s uncomfortable – especially to those closest to me. Being honest with myself and others even when it’s not convenient. Setting boundaries.
- Guess what? I’m human!
Letting go of perfectionism – it’s okay if the house is messy, the car is old, and I can’t get it all done in one day. It’s okay to be angry, scared, confused, tired. I am divine, and human all mixed in one.
I am so grateful for all the transformation – and quite relieved to feel like I’ve popped out the other side. I’m tickled silly by our new life in the mountains with our expanded family, my new Healing Space and shamanic healing practice.
And you? What lessons have you learned over the past year? How has your life shifted? Leave a comment below please.
I enjoyed reading your blog. Your “hard won gems” resonate with me. I am still a work in progress in many of those areas.
My life is shifting……… a husband who recently retired – I thought it would crimp my style day to day having him around, but what I learned is I enjoy him and he doesn’t crimp my style, he enhances it. Then there is my son whose twins are about to be born. Boys!! and I think this may be karma!!! So I will pray very hard for him now so when they become teenagers, he will survive it. And lastly there is my sweet Hannah who moved to Bridgton Maine to pursue midwifery for which I believe she was divinely guided. I miss her…. I miss being a part of her day to day life but I am excited for her. She inspires me.. But you know all this having met her. I am grateful: mom to mom, for your wisdom and influence in her life. Thank you!
Thank you Jae! Hannah is a treasure and such a gift to our family. Thank you for raising her and sharing her! It does sound like you’ve had a lot of shifting and shaking in your world too. I hope we get to meet in person soon!